A thought about expectation and disappointment: The wisdom of letting go is built into true love.
My card today is the Empress, beautiful, feminine and abundant. As a response to letting go, she represents all that can be wanted: The rampant abundance of nature and the depth of Venusian beauty. In the wilderness, growth and decay peacefully flow into one another. A sparse and melancholy truth of impermanence deepens the mystery of Nature’s draw.
I wonder about the meaning of ‘non-attachment’. Detachment can be a happy life, but it is only one way to live. My best teachers, those who’ve helped the most people, were simple – fluid and graceful about letting go, accepting a change without resistance and allowing their own emotions in without judgement.
Maybe when the archetypal sage says, ‘Be Unattached, practice Non-attachment’, they simply mean in that moment, with anything that is hurting you to hold onto, let go and love it. There is a delicious surrender in the death of something important to you.
I doubt the sage’s lesson is to never care about something enough to be hurt by losing it. He asks us to be humble, be ok with the fact that we aren’t all able to let go gracefully without practice, and offers us tools with which to practice.
Developing the wisdom of letting go might be about learning to be flexible, a willingness to anytime accept that things in this world, no matter how beautiful, change. With some thoughtfulness, knowing your own skill at letting go and what you have to work on helps you make choices which best serve you. These are choices that come out of dignity, self-respect, and consideration of the potential rather than out of simple fear of a bad ending.
The Empress is honest with us – there are things we will want in life, because they are good and worth enjoying. Leaning more about my ability to let go gracefully has sapped some of the fear from devotion, opening me up to enjoying each moment, each commitment, that much more!